Dating & Relationships

Are you single? If you are more than likely you have a "wish list" or a list of requirements that you would like your significant other to have. It's my opinion that each individual should have 2 lists when it comes to relationships:  1) Non-negotiable 2) Negotiable traits. Now that you have your lists ask yourself, "Where do I fit in when it comes to my list?" and "Do I possess all the things I want and/or require in a mate?"

My friend Stacy is always saying how she wants a good man &she wants to be loved. She wants a man who is GOD fearing, successful, and driven and makes six figures. On some level we all want to be loved and we all deserve to be but are you doing what is required to attract and keep the love and the relationship you desire? Stacy is beautiful, intelligent and a fun girl. However Stacy also frequents female strip clubs weekly, drinks excessively and goes home on a whim with "Ray-Ray". If this is how she likes to have fun than so be it. Everyone is free to live their life how they choose and I'm not here to judge. My point is Stacy always says "I want a good man".  Is it impossible to find a good man at the strip club or while getting drunk? Absolutely not, anything is possible however it is HIGHLY UNLIKELY.  It's also unlikely she will attract the the man she "requires" in her nice little list I mentioned above.

Rule #1 - Be who you want to attract. What you bring to the table determines who sits down and stays at your table. As I mentioned before Stacy is beautiful & fun. She is college educated and has a successful career however her actions are not in alignment with her list.

A perfect example of someone's actions that are in alignment with their desires is my friend Dave. Dave is a handsome, intelligent, and GOD fearing man. He has a successful corporate career in addition to being successful in his own personal business. Recently he was out shopping when he was at the checkout and the cashier tried to pick him up. He politely declined her offer. His reasoning may upset shock and maybe baffle some but he said, "She was the cashier". Now there could be several reasons she is a cashier. She could be working her way through school; it could be her 2nd job etc. Whatever the case, my friend didn't care to find out and I don't blame him. He knows who he is, what he brings to the table and what he desires from a woman. He also knows what is negotiable for him and what isn't. It may not be an approach many agree with however but he is a perfect example of being who it is who he wants to attract.

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